Every once in a while, a post from someone whose life and relationship is quite unlike mind nonetheless strikes a chord. That's why FemDomWife.BlogSpot.com, by P and her submissive husband M, and why FDHouseHusband.BlogSpot.com have links from my sidebar.
And it was M who wrote about punishment in Punishment Resumed that struck and unexpected chord. I should mention that the whole conversation with my beloved in my previous post took place before I had read M's post. His relationship to punishment bears no relationship to my desires, and indeed, my beloved and I have raised two spectacular kids (OK, we're biased...) who didn't know the meaning of the word punishment until they heard it in school. There were consequences and expectations, but punitive punishment was just never something we needed to have. YMMV.
So when my beloved mentioned the word "consequences" in connection with our assessment of what happened yesterday, I was pleasantly surprised.
And late the evening, when I thought about what would motivate me to to serve her, I realized that the kind of consequences we had talked about would in fact serve some purpose - to provide that extra "kick" when things get tough.
So I do find some commonality with M's thoughts on this after all.
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