You know, this "paying attention to what she says" thing shouldn't be that hard. But it is. I'm actually enjoying trying to pay attention, but finding that even in the smallest ways, it takes some attention.
Yesterday I was trying to eat a sandwich, hold a cup of coffee, and drive all at the same time. My immediate response to "Let me hold that coffee for you" was not "Thank you" or "Of course," but some lame-brained excuse. 3 seconds latter I figured it out and suggested the cup-holder unless she felt otherwise. I know she didn't notice, but at least it made sense to me that I figured it out and came up with a solution.
Today there were about four things I wanted to do after work, but as she was leaving for her meeting, she casually said, "You could smoke that chicken tonight." The first reaction: "Ahh, I'm not sure how good I'm feeling." Which was true - I'd just taken an hour nap after work, which I never do. But the second reaction was, "If I possibly feel well enough, I certainly will." Needless(?) to say, the chicken is in the smoker.
So I'll try to stay persistent and keep at it.
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